Everyone should get rid of their toxic friends is a great article to read.
Toxic Pals? is also a good read.
Now say you have realised you have a toxic friend or family member, what should you do? When should you demand change ?
What are the signs indicating that you could use a break or change?
What to do, how to get out…
Is it wrong to hold grudges (is life too short)? (from here)
5 types of toxic friends had me nodding and thinking of quite a few people in my life who fitted these.
I will tell you a story, i won't name names in it for privacy sake of the person who disclosed this story to me.
"I had a Toxic person in my life, no matter what I did I felt like, they were almost like a stalker. Trying to be me, dressing like me, doing things like me. At first i thought of it as a sign of flattery but i started to see this person didn't really have a sense of self, any attempt to get them to be themselves would be met with accusations that I was horrible.
A few years of not talking to this person, went by. Then a family member died, I started talking to them. Then, the same patterns appeared and this person went as far as to spread rumors to anyone who knew me or had heard of me. So I booted them out of my life again , for the second time.
They came crawling back, and proved 2 more times, they won't change their patterns. Nor will they accept they can not be me or have my life. The final straw was when I texted them to announce some good news and I got abuse as a reply. I told myself, enough i enough, I will no longer allow you to make me feel inferior and abuse me. No more chances. "